PART 1: I Lost My Love To GAMES

by c.J
published by Rinie 7 August 2009



So you found out recently that your current love has found new love online. At least that's what you are suspecting. FYI, I'm not talking about the odd porno pervert or chatting to old high school friends – what I really meant is real online cheating. This is so pissing off. Lame much?


But how should you know?


And how in the world do you find out? Is it really called cheating if your partner’s new fling is half way across the world? Still categorised under cheating if that moron is only appearing virtually?

While I don't pretend to be a cyber sleuth, I do have a fairly good idea of my way around the internet and computers so here is a little story and some advice if you suspect your partner's mouse may have crossed the line.

Well here’s my part of story, after a few happy years of marriage. I thought that this relationship was pretty awesome, but the problem snow-balled after my wife found World of Warcraft. What being a cooperative and communicative marriage became nights and weekends of slaying dragons, collected leather and fun watching over her shoulder as she got more and more addicted to 'Warcrack'. Hurray, at least she has plenty of fun.

That is not the worst yet till she joins the Guild War. It seems like tremendous of fun with happy people from all walks of life gathering as elves dwarves to


They seemed like fun, happy people from all walks of life coming together as elves, dwarves and every other creature (she played alliance) to relax at the end of the day. But then suddenly something changed. She became secretive and wouldn't let me watch her play anymore. Whenever I asked about how the game was going, her answers would become short and ambiguous. Finally I started to suspect that she and her Guild leader were starting to get a little close.

To cut a long story short, I eventually discovered that not only was she having "cybersex" with him online, but that she had made plans to leave me and move half way across the world (well to New Zealand) to be with him. It didn't help that he was a stoner slacker who looks like Comic Book Guy. Suffice to say that in the breakup, I got the house, all she got was the computer.

So how can you find out if your partner is doing the dirty behind your back and on your computer? There are some fairly simple techniques that I have investigated that will make light work of your cyber investigations and leave you time to put your affairs in order before you throw their cheating ass out. Some of the techniques require luck, some require you to slightly reset your moral compass (but hey - they are the ones cheating, isn't that much worse on the scale of things?) Most just require that you know where to look.

Love Drama To Be Continue...