PART 2: I LOST MY LOVE TO GAMES

by c.J
published by Rinie 10 August 2009


This is a continuous article from the previous chapter;


Firstly - If you do know the name of that scumbag they may be cheating with – Google it.

A simple search of the internet will provide you with generous information about that scumbag. Do browse through every result search and look in at least twenty pages and open every link. You may get your hands on photos, addresses, dates of birth, occupations, and phone numbers, everything that will give you an edge. Then with the information you find, run more Google searches. That person in crime won’t be able to hide behind the screen for long now that you have such invaluable piece of source.




Secondly - If you so happen to know your partner's passwords, check their email inbox and don’t missed out their sent mail folders. If you don’t, find a way to. Often simple tactics like phishing works magically. Check on who have they been writing to, and do they sign up for new programs or websites that will help them hide what they are doing. Beware, you might strike pay dirt and find a steamy email or details of a tryst. Also do look through the deleted mails as they might have thought that by deleting the email will be gone. However it usually stays around for a while maybe a couple of days or so. Also, have a thorough look at the contacts in the address book, are there any names you often hear them mentioning about? Do they sound suspicious to you? Also look at the email address - does it match up with any you found doing your initial search. Be careful to mark any emails back to unread if you opened them before your partner did.

Thirdly – Run a search for files created on the computer. Unless you are constantly installing new programs, this should be fairly stagnant. If you run a search for all files created within the last week, you could find messenger programs may have been installed, or photos or videos created to send to the other person. If you might stumble across programs, try running them and logging in with your partners passwords. You might even catch them in the act. (In my case, I discovered a World of Warcraft screenshot my wife had accidentally taken in the throes of digital passion, outlining in very graphic details what she was doing to his hard disk. That was all the evidence I needed...)

Lastly – The last resort is to install key logging software. These programs run silently in the background and are the most effective way of keeping you informed round the clock on what really is happening. If you didn't know your partner's passwords, you will now and be able to go back to step two. While originally these programs were limited, today there are some excellent ones that that will not only record every keystroke, but also tell you the websites visited, take screenshots on a regular basis and even record the microphone and speaker output. Some will even quietly email out the results so you can read them at work or somewhere else privately. And most will give you a free demo, more than long enough to find out what your partner is really up to. However, this can be considered illegal, so tread carefully.

So now you know if your partner is just innocently friends with the global community, or yu are having our grass cut virtually. These techniques might be equally applicable to monitor a troublesome teen that may need a little extra parental oversight. I would also suggest you be careful not to get caught yourself snooping, leaving your own trail of destruction that could lead to a breakup.
I'll leave the "is an online relationship cheating?" question to SpotGamers readers everywhere. Good luck and I hope that you sleuthing prove futile and you have a happy life together.